That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe. These are in accordance with the working of the strength of His might ~Eph. 1:17-19
I sit across from a guy who just poured his guts out to me. Not only has he become vulnerable, he also sits and listens as I take an axe to the perceptions that are not based in reality but instead are semi-rooted in an emotional narrative.
This isn’t Oprah.
His eyes simply stare at the table, the pieces of his life are laying there for everyone to see. I sigh and state the same thing I have said over a thousand times now in six years, “there is still hope and this isn’t the end.”
Mentoring is one of the most difficult things a person can commit to on either side of the table. The vulnerability, the time and the emotional effort that a person commits to bettering themselves, being challenged and simply being real can be daunting. However, the measure of freedom and confidence that should come out of the process can be the difference between a person who loses hope in their calling versus a person who is strengthened to approach life head on.
Mentoring is not tearing someone apart. It is not breaking someone’s will. It is not your time, as a mentor, to show how much you know. It is a time to help someone know what they were made for. That the gifts, talents and passions that have been ingrained in a person from birth may become manifest. That iron would sharpen iron.
Paul was one of the best mentors in the Bible and when he is praying this prayer, it was also a moment to mentor the church of Ephesus. You can almost feel the yearning of his writing saying, “BELIEVE, HOPE CONTINUALLY! HE IS ALIVE IN YOU!” He was so for the church, for the people he had stood with for years. He was committed. What an example for a mentor to take hold of and thrive from.